Of course being free to live more than one day; is more down to your choices than the world being against you. Kind of.
Obstacles often loom large, casting shadows of doubt and uncertainty at the heart of our bravery muscles. Like the Lion from the Wizard of Oz. Kind of.
He was a great character though wasn’t. And had the best song
‘If I Only Had the Nerve.’
It reflected his desire to find courage and overcome his fears, making him a beloved character in the classic tale. That’s a little bit relevant. Kind of.
To be honest, when thinking about this blog the first thing that came to my mind was that Lion. No reason why but it does gives you brief sample of where my head wanders off to when it shouldn’t. But the Lion was a funky character.
Yet having said, amidst the tumultuous terrain of challenges and adversity, there exists a profound truth: we possess the power to carve our own destiny.
It is a fundamental freedom granted to us, (and you know freedom is my big thing) the ability to navigate the twists and turns of existence with courage and resilience. Despite the weight of obstacles that may seem insurmountable, we hold the reins of our own fate, guided by the choices we make and the mindset we embrace.
In the face of adversity, we are confronted with a pivotal choice – to succumb to the constraints of circumstance or to rise above, forging ahead with unwavering determination. Do we sing the song about wanting the nerve or do we actually raise our fists and create the nerve, from within, with the rest of the Universe urging us on?
Lets explore the Liberating notion, bred from the Lonely notion that despite the challenges that may beset us, we are free to chart our own course, to live authentically, and to pursue our dreams with unyielding resolve.
Loneliness can arise from a combination of factors, both internal and external. And that zaps the energy which erases any form of courage and then just ‘accepts’ and nudges us to sit back down.
The blame game is a massive faux pas of the isolated. Everything is always someone’s fault, never our fault or always our fault.
Blame refers to assigning responsibility or fault to someone for a particular action, event, or outcome.
When someone blames another person, they believe that the individual is accountable for causing a problem or making a mistake.
Blame often involves holding someone accountable for their actions or decisions, either verbally or through other means. And when we say holding… boy do we mean holding. Holding until it consumes the days. Holding until we look back and that was all we did for the previous decade.
Instead of blame, an emotion that we can employ is forgiveness. Dr. David Hawkins, in his work on human consciousness and spiritual development, emphasized the transformative power of forgiveness. According to Hawkins, forgiveness is a higher-level emotion that transcends blame and resentment. It involves letting go of grievances, releasing negative emotions, and choosing to move forward with compassion and understanding.
Forgiveness allows individuals to free themselves from the burden of resentment and anger, leading to greater inner peace and emotional well-being.
Forgiveness is indeed a powerful act that can bring immense relief and healing, but it often requires a conscious decision and commitment to let go of resentment and blame.
While the concept of forgiveness may sound simple, in practice, it can be challenging, especially when dealing with deep-seated emotions or significant grievances.
Here are some steps to simplify the process of forgiveness:
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Acknowledge Your Feelings: Recognize and acknowledge the emotions you are experiencing, whether it’s anger, hurt, or resentment. Allow yourself to fully feel and express these emotions without judgment.
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Understand the Benefits of Forgiveness: Reflect on how holding onto blame and resentment may be affecting your well-being. Understand that forgiveness is not condoning the actions of others but rather freeing yourself from the burden of negative emotions.
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Make a Conscious Decision: Choose to forgive. This decision may not erase the pain or injustice you’ve experienced, but it empowers you to take control of your emotional state and move forward with your life.
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Release Negative Thoughts and Emotions: Practice letting go of negative thoughts and emotions associated with the situation or person you blame. This may involve re-framing your perspective, practising empathy, or engaging in forgiveness exercises such as journaling or meditation.
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Focus on Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and compassion as you navigate the process of forgiveness. Recognize that forgiveness is a journey and that it’s okay to take small steps toward letting go of blame.
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Seek Support: If forgiveness feels overwhelming or challenging, consider seeking support from trusted friends, family members, or a therapist. Talking about your feelings and experiences can help you gain perspective and find clarity in the forgiveness process.
Remember that forgiveness is a personal journey, and it may take time to fully let go of blame and resentment.
By making a conscious choice to forgive and taking steps to release negative emotions, we can experience greater peace and emotional freedom in our days.
It doesnt have to be complicated we can even do it right now. As we are. Where we sit. With all we have right now.
We don’t have to warm up to it like an athlete limbering up before a race. Just choose something small, a tiny niggly blame you hold in your head, see it now, that you hold any blame or resentment.
That dog next door ate my carrot.
But I acknowledge it pissed me off
I know I should forgive. It’s just a dumb dog. It’s just a carrot I can get more.
I am making a conscious decision to forgive. I forgive you dog. Enjoy the carrot.
I am releasing this whole issue now. It’s gone. I handled it.
Now be nice to yourself. Congratulate yourself. Treat yourself. A big fat creamy cake not a rubbish carrot!
Talk about it if you need to. Talk to yourself about how grateful you are and how proud of yourself you are. If it’s too much after that and you feel you’re not ready yet. Then talk and share with someone who can guide you, when you feel you may be ready. If you want to. It’s your choice.
Most of all be nice to yourself.
You are free to make the choices you want to.
Outside influences need to be diminished.
Just try a small experiment. Then make it a habit. If you can and want to.
If this is not what you need or want today then watch the Wizard of Oz with a creamy cake instead.
Don’t try to life your life in one day.
You made a small step just now.
The next step is one step further.