Maybe you are like me and have confidence bones that sometimes could snap a tree in half and others days are wibbly wobbly like shaky jelly. You know what I mean don’t you? Some days you can stand in front of the world and motivate all humanity with the words of a poet and the energy of Thor. And other days you can’t remember your name or how to say hello or how to put your clothes on the right way around. Well to be honest odd socks is a thing I do no matter my mental state but you catch my drift.
And also I should say at this juncture that I am not a medical expert or psychologist so I am not even sure we have a confidence bone. I remember the song from school about the order of the skeleton frame but don’t remember the confidence bone so at this point just assume I am trying to use a clever yet completely irrelevant metaphor. Just to break the ice. Just to build some confidence in our new rapport.
What I do know from my endless online searches is that confidence is a psychological state or feeling of certainty, self-assurance, or trust in one’s abilities, judgments, or beliefs. It involves having a positive and assertive mindset that allows individuals to tackle challenges, make decisions, and take actions with conviction.
Easier said than done I know and below I have written some of the basic thoughts and known factors relating to confidence for your perusal.
However if you are like me then you are just going to skip to the audio I guess. You are like me aren’t you?
I would glance down and pretend I have read it. I pretend I can speed read do you? My eyes catch 4 words and my brain fills the gaps in. I am like an AI program that is never going to be really and will always be sued for defamation and the like.
And way I got distracted. Look up for the audio and down for the words.
Confidence is closely linked to a person’s self-esteem and self-worth. When someone has confidence, they generally have a strong belief in their own competence, skills, and knowledge in a particular area or overall. This belief provides a sense of security and optimism, enabling individuals to face obstacles, handle setbacks, and persevere in pursuit of their goals.
Confidence is not necessarily about being flawless or infallible. It acknowledges that mistakes and failures are part of the learning process and does not let them deter progress. Rather, confidence allows individuals to view setbacks as opportunities for growth and improvement.
Confidence can manifest in various aspects of life, such as personal relationships, professional settings, sports, public speaking, and creative endeavours. It is often associated with displaying poise, charisma, and a sense of authority or competence.
Building confidence is a gradual process that can be influenced by various factors, including past experiences, achievements, supportive environments, positive self-talk, and continuous self-improvement. By challenging oneself, setting realistic goals, and celebrating successes, individuals can enhance their confidence and develop a strong belief in their abilities.
Overall, confidence allegedly empowers individuals to take risks, embrace challenges, and achieve their full potential. It is a useful attribute that contributes to personal growth, success, and a positive outlook on life.
Self-confidence is not something that individuals are necessarily born with, but rather, it is developed over time through various life experiences and personal growth. While some individuals may naturally exhibit more confidence from an early age, it is a trait that can be cultivated and strengthened throughout one’s life.
Factors such as upbringing, social interactions, personal achievements, and the ability to overcome challenges play a significant role in shaping and building self-confidence. For example, receiving positive reinforcement and support from family and peers can contribute to a person’s sense of self-worth and confidence. Similarly, accomplishing goals, acquiring new skills, and experiencing success in different areas can boost self-confidence.
Conversely, negative experiences, criticism, and failures can erode confidence levels. However, it is important to note that setbacks and failures are a natural part of life, and they provide opportunities for individuals to learn, grow, and develop resilience. By learning from these experiences and maintaining a positive mindset, individuals can regain and even strengthen their self-confidence.
Additionally, self-confidence is not a static attribute but can fluctuate depending on various circumstances and contexts. It is possible for someone to feel confident in one area of their life but lack confidence in another. For example, an individual may be confident in their professional abilities but struggle with self-confidence in social situations. Therefore, self-confidence requires ongoing self-awareness and effort to maintain and enhance it in different aspects of life.
While individuals may have different predispositions and personality traits that influence their confidence levels, self-confidence is a trait that can be nurtured and developed throughout life through experiences, personal growth, and a positive mindset.
Yes, it is possible to teach yourself self-confidence and cultivate it as a skill. Building self-confidence involves a combination of self-reflection, mindset shifts, practice, and taking positive actions. Here are some strategies that can help you develop self-confidence:
- Identify and challenge limiting beliefs: Start by identifying any negative or limiting beliefs you may have about yourself and your abilities. These beliefs often stem from past experiences or negative self-talk. Challenge these beliefs by questioning their validity and replacing them with positive and empowering thoughts.
- Set realistic goals: Set small, achievable goals for yourself and work towards them. As you accomplish these goals, you will gain a sense of competence and build confidence in your ability to succeed. Gradually increase the difficulty of your goals as you progress.
- Celebrate your successes: Acknowledge and celebrate your achievements, no matter how small they may seem. Recognize your strengths, skills, and progress, and give yourself credit for your efforts. This positive reinforcement reinforces self-confidence.
- Embrace failure as a learning opportunity: Instead of being discouraged by failure, view it as a chance to learn and grow. Understand that setbacks and mistakes are a normal part of the learning process. Analyze what went wrong, make adjustments, and try again. Each failure can bring you closer to success.
- Practice self-compassion: Be kind and compassionate towards yourself. Treat yourself with the same level of understanding and support that you would offer to a friend. Avoid harsh self-criticism and negative self-talk, as they can undermine confidence.
- Step out of your comfort zone: Challenge yourself by stepping out of your comfort zone and trying new things. Take on tasks or activities that stretch your abilities and expose you to new experiences. This helps you develop new skills, broaden your perspective, and build confidence in handling unfamiliar situations.
- Surround yourself with supportive people: Seek the company of positive and supportive individuals who believe in you and encourage your growth. Surrounding yourself with people who uplift and inspire you can have a significant impact on your self-confidence.
- Practice self-care: Taking care of your physical and mental well-being can positively influence your confidence. Engage in activities that make you feel good, such as exercising, eating healthily, getting enough rest, and engaging in hobbies you enjoy. When you feel good about yourself, it can boost your confidence.
Remember that building self-confidence is a gradual process, and it requires patience and consistency. By actively working on developing self-confidence, you can improve your self-belief, increase your resilience, and approach challenges with a positive mindset.
You are my hero for reading all these words. You should take great confidence in your stick-ability. This is how you grow your confidence buy recognising all the things you complete and achieve. The more little victories no matter how little, the more your confidence grows. Its your ability that loves the attention. I believe in you immensely.
